Many people who come to therapy often say that they have soul hurts.
And when we begin to understand what they mean, it turns out that they confused the manifestation of his soul and nagging plump human Ego. It's a neurotic state, often supported and called scarce inner child, who wants free love and mercy, strengthened in life, as one of the conditions of the Victim.
And the pain in my heart is when we for a long time, can not satisfy their genuine spiritual needs.
for Example, someone deeply considers himself unhappy because he was not paying attention husband, someone feels unhappy because can't buy new iPhone, car, apartment, cottage, box, etc.) or to go to Thailand, someone feels deeply unhappy because he could not get a new position at work or to build a family, feeling lonely. These needs may be hundreds and there is nothing negative, they're just material and should not be confused with spiritual values.
Emotional pain comes from unmet spiritual values.
And this is some kind of moral, ethical, aesthetic, religious principles and interests without which a person cannot achieve respect, honesty, to be creative, to think about their mission, the legacy, the continuation.
Without the formation of spiritual values, does not appear to be life-meaningful orientations, a person does not understand why he continue to live, is based on what his Outlook, attitude to the culture, other people and the world in General. What it means for his good, goodness, mutual loyalty, patriotism.
That is, without the realization of the spiritual sphere in existential terms, is not happening of self-realization, harmony of man with himself, because he does not understand their true values and guided by strangers and accepted.
As so often happens, because people live in their lives in accordance with any other people's ideals, values, reference points, and then, when aware of this, bitterly disappointed. Then, indeed, appears emotional pain for aimlessly lived life, lost time and missed opportunities. And especially from the fact that return nothing.
Share your experience. At the beginning of his practice in 2007, I worked in one of the hospices and talked to terminally ill people had very often to see someone hurt, and someone whining Ego. When a person is about to leave and he thinks that he is sorry the bath is not completed on the site and in some country on vacation not gone. And there were people who very calmly to this attitude by accepting the situation because I felt that have lived their lives as they wanted.
do Not want to end on a minor note, but the fact remains that living someone else's life, we die his death and that, aware of their finiteness and spiritual values, we are more likely to open their genuine needs, interests.
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