Often the biggest problem in the way of building relationships with others becomes low self-esteem.
self-Esteem — this is a subjective view of the person about himself, about how he is worthy of respect and acceptance in relationships with other people.
self-Esteem is in a relationship with a significant Other. In the experience of the person with low self-esteem the Other's likely that it's overly criticized, evaluated, devalued and not accepted. How important is this Other for survival depends on the extent to which people will criticize you, and how low his self-esteem. If in a child's life there are a few important adults, one of which is overly critical, another very host, then the child will have space to maneuver. He can form the splitting between low and normal self-esteem, or his self-esteem will be normal and adequate, but definitely will not be only low. Low self-esteem, usually formed, if freedom of choice is not, that is when all the significant others (one or more) — excessive criticizing and evaluating.
it is Important to understand that low self-esteem — the adaptation of man to relationship with significant others, from which depended his well-being and life itself. At some point, the fixture was adequate, but this does not mean that it must carry through life. In adult life everyone can choose their own environment, which will be his to take.
Another thing is that getting rid of old patterns of relations is often difficult. Fully this can be done only after obtaining a sufficient number of different experiences. In this case — experience making other people those parts of yourself that were rejected early significant Others.
to Get this experience in any group of people important to You who are able to share Your interests and views, to understand and accept Your feelings and emotions.
the Most difficult thing here I see the search for these new Other and the first step on the way to him. Will have to overcome his own low self esteem and be given a contact, risking to meet again with the criticism and depreciation.
Psychotherapy can give initial experience of making that person easier to go to the people. If You have the actual problem of low self-esteem, I'm ready to participate in its promotion.
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