First, let's understand what is the status of the victim and how we can get there. 🤔
so if you don't take responsibility for their lives into their own hands, blame others for their problems, always dissatisfied with everything and all the time looking for someone to complain, then you have this complex.
again, it starts in childhood. Remember? If the child was doing well on time, was not wrong, etc., it was considered the norm. And, most often, parents do not pay attention. 😟 Well, still good! But if on the contrary... If a child-child parents paid attention (and it does not matter even that was scolded!) only when his life happened something bad – error, bad behavior, illness 🤧, and in adult life he continues to surround himself with misery. Because he remembers that the only way to be noticed and, perhaps, love. He is not yet aware that this is not the best way to contact with people.
I Think that every person in the entourage were such people. Why "was"? Yes, because a person with a victim complex is not very interesting to talk to. More precisely, it is uninteresting. Few who are willing to listen to other people's problems for a long time. 🤬 So usually people try to avoid their society.
But is not the only problem with such feature. The biggest disadvantage, in my opinion, is the loss of taste of life.
What to do? I'm sorry, but you have to get out of this state alone. You need to start is with awareness: to notice and accept that this problem exists. Further – to follow his speech and stop 🙅 ♀ app itself, once you realize that once you start to complain. Even if you have already started. End the story – "Oh, something I'm not there."
by the Way, you can ask your friends for help so they stopped you, if you suddenly start to whine. 😋 But I warn you, it will not be very nice. But so you quickly learn to notice when and how you do it.
learn to say "no" if you don't like what you offer, start to defend their point of view. Well, and increase your confidence 😎, learn to better understand their emotions, read and engage in self-development.
And most importantly, remember – only you decide what colors to paint your life in bright or dark. 👩🎨
good Luck!
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