let's Start with the fact that most of the women on the question of what more the other you need man in the family, usually referred to as comfort and understanding. Yes in terms of comfort I agree, although it is necessary to understand correctly, but on account of the fact that this understanding, most women make serious mistakes. However, let's start in order. Every man by nature wants to feel significant, respected and strong and all in different ways strive to meet this need. In the family, for men it is essential to feel free and independent. He wants to come home and realize that it all works according to his rules. This is the place where considered him, respect his opinion and do not disturb unnecessarily. In other words, family is a place of rest. This is what is called comfort. However, in some families, women admit the same error. They believe that it is necessary to communicate with him and provide him comfort at the expense of almost full custody. Usually, this manifests itself in the fact that he was beginning to ask questions about the day, to give him instructions about what you need to do so, and not otherwise, that in any given situation, he behaved incorrectly and all that he is capable of nothing and all his friends more successful than him. It all ends with a repeated urge to go to the kitchen and eat. What his name a few times and each time adding something like: "how can you call that cold all a long time and because of you, I got all warm". I usually tell women consultations about the following: "don't call my husband into the kitchen more than once, tell him just that when he wants it, let me tell You, and You will warm him food." in Doing so, the woman seriously wins. First, it protects your nerves and gas, and secondly does not create conditions for conflict.
Another important aspect of comfort for the man is to give him time to just shut up. There is a category of women who begin to experience serious discomfort at the sight silent of her husband. They just mentally can't stand it. They consider it almost my duty to break this silence and make something rational in this seemingly vacuum. In fact, at this point, a man just trying to sort out his thoughts and he needs to hear himself. You just need to leave it for some time and he will be back very soon and will be ready to dialogue.
we will Continue. Under psychological comfort for most men think that their house needs to act their rules. This does not mean that it needs to delve into every detail and control every ruble. No, it's usually the lot is not the most confident men she so eager to assert its significance, although it is easy to fix. For men it is important to trust your wife and be sure that any major changes in the home do not occur without discussion with them, that is, he doesn't need constant control, and simply the definition of the General course. That means that the comfort and coziness of a family for men — that is his little Kingdom, which he preserves and where to just do his will, where he feels himself master of the situation. Believe me, even the most unsuccessful man, if you feel that you considered him, respect his opinion and mind will begin to achieve much more and definitely will achieve. Often it happens that one and the same man behaves quite differently in different families. It so happens that the wife leaves the weak men and then discovers that he has become successful in a new family. From woman and her psychologically correct approach very much depends. This cannot be underestimated.
Now a little about the understanding. A large portion of women are confident that neither understand men. However, in practice, they are just projecting their female psychology on their husbands. That is, I believe that if something they like, it seems like their men, or Vice versa, if something they like, they think that it doesn't wash and should not be like the man. Let me explain. Suppose the man decided to share with the wife with their own life plans and intentions for the future. If a woman sees it foolish, some just to say that nothing intelligent could not come to his mind that Mr. not quite capable of it, anyway, he's talking crazy. The other part on the contrary, begins to Express his admiration and to talk about what their husband should do these things, and the most capable will succeed. In extension of this, they begin to give him a bunch of useful instructions and almost demand results. Believe me, and very rarely gives a positive result. In the first case, men have generally no desire in the future something to share with his wife, and in the second he will be afraid to say something to his wife for the reason that can easily become a hostage of his word. Is this woman just need to announce that she supports her husband and he knows better how to act. However, if the idea husband really is a crazy and destructive (which, in fairness, we note, occurs not so rarely), then it's better to start with the fact that his idea is interesting and only then through dialogue to bring it to the idea that it is not the best solution and that he can do more and more reasonable. It is a science, and, God willing, in the future I will reveal details that question. It is important to remember the following - people don't like it when they suddenly point out their mistakes. Just start with praise and then move on to criticism. Speaking of praise. For some reason, some women believe that a man does not need praise, thus it will start to become conceited and cease to grow. This is nothing more than a destructive myth. Yes, not everyone is willing to admit that he likes it when they are admired, but really love it all. It satisfies a basic social need of all people - need to be meaningful. Man you need to praise right. Praise should not be similar to flattery and did not have a real basis. A man loves when his praise for what he actually did, for his care and custody, for the manifestation of his masculine nature. If a man will know that in the eyes of his wife he is successful, smart, generous and strong man, he will surely become so. If the husband nailed the slipper in the home of the cockroach, it is not necessary to tell him: "Oh, Oh, Oh, look at this hero" instead, you need to mark it as an act of ridding the home of dangerous beasts and then it will feel really a hero and wants to prove to his wife that she is under the most reliable protection.
to sum up we can mention the following, namely, that if a man feels that he is appreciated, that his opinion is not ridiculed, that he was grateful for what he does, then he will have to rise above itself and will very soon prove to his wife that she's married to the most intelligent and reliable man. But at the same time, the woman shouldn't act obsessive and beg for the attentions of her husband, keep myself a little detached, and at the same time nearby and then many problems will pass Your family by. May God grant us all understanding and strength to our families was our most reliable and robust.
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