"During my life I have experienced many troubles, most of which never happened."
mark TWAIN.
"I'm worried about you". I worried all the time, as if what did not happen"
"what if I relax and it will happen that something terrible."
None of the authors of the quotes and really can't sound that terrible, but to fear and to worry this is very important and cannot withdraw.
Man, even coming to therapy, very long lasting for your fears, and sometimes even cultivates them. We can many and diverse to talk about the fact that the world is safe.
One will say - "if you do not be afraid - nothing to do in my life" - that this is not the motivation for accomplishments, and why is fear not to take the kind of motivation and need for the development of any creature? Well just go and believe that if we will not be intimidated - we're going? As well as once believe that fear motivates.
the Other will say - I live quietly, and suddenly something terrible will happen, and you're not ready, and the world will crumble and it will hurt. But pain is part of life, and expecting her every minute of his existence because we deprive ourselves of peace and joy. It may be worth accepting that the world is a place for everything and enjoy just today, not trying to make forecasts and to provide a cushion in all imaginable and unimaginable places. Not useful after all, fall is still in an unexpected place).
Boris Grebenshchikov has a song - a day of joy, and "morning in the field", and "sitting on beautiful hill." And besides he has a pleasant enough event that fills our life, and now may be the time to change the focus from failure and pain to warmth and peace and joy?
And Yes, we were deceived when told that fear is a necessary part of the survival instinct, it's untested data, and there are cases of denials.
the survival Instinct itself, fear itself, believe me, You're not going to jump into the well, if you suddenly are no longer afraid to die in it.
Credibility is a key concept in that, trust yourself - not afraid of pain, find humane ways to motivate, accept yourself as is, without having to hide unsightly.
And I understand that the situation will react, if suddenly. So I propose to relax and get pleasure from life!)
