Треугольник Карпмана. Один и тот же человек?

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There is an interesting phenomenon: if the victim feels the security and, more importantly, the impunity, the lack of response, she likely would attack itself.

For the lazy and those who are ready to close the article: the victim heals, not pity and rescue her from the aggressor, and clearly established boundaries with someone for a long time.


This is one and the same person.

Spinner spinning of Karpman and I am increasingly coming to believe that there are no victims-rescuers at all. Pupated one with a spinner in your cocoon, as in the matrix and lies in the nutrient solution, looks series of attacks and vozmezdie. 

of Course, initially could be physical or moral violence, which served as the trigger for pupation. In the case of the healthy response is kontynuowana and utilization of negativity. In a situation of trauma and startup behavior travmatika is kontynuowana the whole person. It is separated from the world to a greater extent than the more adaptive counterparts, and begins to regard the world from the point of the triangle of Karpman. Next to something big and strong - it is the aggressor, plus or minus equal to a rescue (it's amazing, but often so), a small and meek - it is possible to bleed their dogs. 




Capsules lot and found the second, third, stereotypical world, the victim stated in thoughts that this is the real world and all its reasoning and imagination justified.

In the first case, the victim is really acting like a victim. In the case of "wide and safe," there is still the constant fear that a big attack, or has plans. At the slightest attempt "big" to take the initiative as it is becoming unsafe and, consequently, turns into the aggressor.

second, if the girlfriend or someone else trying to defend their equal, or become "weaker" may be followed by an attack, or roleplaying. Not necessarily physically. Aggression can be expressed in endless futile outpouring of his "pain" to the rescue, with smetana boundaries thereof. When you try to defend - welcome to aggressor.

If our victim is found with even weaker... trolling the Internet, wagering on wife, or husband, accusations of anyone on the Internet, just because he can. Quite a aggression.

 

-Why you are suing?!
-Because I can.
 
Than the concept can be useful to the technician or bystanders to the victim? Realizing that the victim is not rigidly fixed, all three roles are here and now inside of her that joining in fellowship as a lifeguard, or the aggressor, or just something trying to explain from the position of, well... any except neutral, and with rigidly fixed borders and regulations, you hereby kataliziruet, run it "spinner" to spin, changing the role as in a kaleidoscope. Not to get into one of the roles is practically impossible because it's not even your behavior, and the perception of the victim that you are unable to influence.
 


the World may indeed be less attractive and predictable than an illusion, but to estimate it it is possible only on the basis of material reality, not emotions about it.

What to do if you feel like a victim, or want to vent "fair" retribution? Or do you think that your therapist is not enough to you a sincere, indulgent, do not share your pain.

Start from the specifics. In the case of working with a specialist will discuss this topic as soon as you thought. Do not wait for ten meetings ahead and consult the forums - it is useless.

If you can revenge anyone - ask yourself the question: what exactly did this man? What could be the motives?

If the motive may be different and you don't harmed, and the person acts "as someone" - most likely you do not communicate with man, and with his cocoon.

If the motives of the opponent is really far from good - better ask yourself what you are doing in dialogue, or this relationship? Why you started it, and they haven't left yet, if they do not suit you?

Try to look at ourselves in this situation: you are acting rationally to her? How would you react to their behavior, whether you are a complete stranger? It's hard, but not really.

Try to assess whether such actions (evaluate the material rather than the contexts and subtexts) cause your reaction? Is it possible some other way to respond?

 

And finally the spinner. Define: which of the blades is a rescue where the victim, where the aggressor?





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