Тема жизни и смерти в работе с подростками. Из опыта.

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"Life - death - life" -  the eternal cycle P. K. Estes

In 2017, when there was a wave of suicide attempts and completed suicides among adolescents I worked at one of the schools of the city of Tyumen and thanked God and myself for that I have additional education psychologist consultant in Gestalt approach, and a personal psychologist. All day for three months I was advising only on the subject of life and death... It was a hard test of my professionalism and emotional stability. As it turned out many children and teenagers have something to say and feel on this topic! 

the Theme of death everywhere...

With the theme of life and death - the existential subject, the eternal subject, increasingly began to come for advice Teens. This contributes to a number of factors, ranging from characteristics of adolescence and thinking about your destiny, the meaning of life and ending with the promotion of social networks campbridge behavior, lack of life values. 

the Theme of life and death surrounds us everywhere: fallen (dead) leaves in autumn Park, "runaway" hamsters and dogs in childhood, "left" grandparents. In the modern world of a teenager from the topic of death surrounds the following: computer games with multiple lives, social networks that promote self-injurious behavior through ogoloshennya VK groups, Instagram, etc. (via: tattoos, piercing, fasting, and cuts body, suicide), TV, with okolomilitarnego video series (in music videos: flight from the roof, self-harm, violence, etc.), friends and classmates, with the presence of suicidal ideation and/or suicidal behavior, the news from other schools about the next suicide.

Discuss the theme of death house

Scared, hurt, shame, shame to talk about death... Just pop up a picture of the past, people, emotions, feelings and decided not to support teen and its development in this challenging topic! to the parent support is required.

That's what usually happens. The theme of death house is usually supplanted, suppressed, devalued. Fear of death is strong, and to tell the teenager that we all once Kanem into oblivion and it can happen even right now for reasons beyond our control despite the fact that our family doesn't smoke and drink filtered water... knees weak. However, the experience of living in fear of death, awareness of the situation near emotionally stable person is the necessity which come to therapy.

Why is the school psychologist and existential themes are not compatible?

In my professional experience, school psychologists typically do not undertake to work with such an existential theme as life and death. This topic requires not only knowledge, experience, but also a large amount of time on one child (that in the conditions of modern education a luxury). In addition, in order to speak freely about the subject of life and death with teenagers or older people need to devote a lot of time and money, work out yourself in the subject and their emotions. Rarely from education attends personal psychologist or supervision for the correction of the professional Advisory activities. 

What can help a school?

the class teacher may suggest the specific situation in the classroom collective, the social status of your child, especially his interaction with peers.

school Psychologist can help to note changes in the child's behavior, mood, presence of suicidal statements in the speech, to share contacts with colleagues who work in medical institutions, children's centers, private practice.

the Medic in the school can help to note changes in the child's weight, condition, signs of self-harm on the body (during medical examination that is given attention). 

What to do?

  • to Observe the emotional state of a teenager, starting with 11-12 years
  • Be in a trust relationship with a teenager
  • to Monitor social networking teenager, to be signed on its page
  • to Clarify with the classroom teacher, the psychologist, the medical condition of a teenager and the presence of "warning"
  • Know the General situation in the class a team
  • knows the contacts of professionals can be accessed if necessary (to not search in a hurry): teacher-psychologist, family psychologist, the psychiatrist, the psychiatrist
  • When you need to go to a psychologist to discuss patients situations from the past related to the theme of life and death


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